By Dr. Margo Jacquot

Are your holidays with family neither merry nor bright? This time of year tickles our expectations for tidings of great joy celebrating holidays with family. But what happens when your family brings you feelings that are quite the opposite?

What happens when you just don’t like or can’t get along with your mother, father, brother, sister or another family member? As one client sarcastically stated, “being with family is life’s rich banquet.” Actually, it can be a banquet of frustration, disappointment, arguing and feeling generally bad.

While this may sound like the musings of the Grinch, some people would rather skip the whole holiday season, all of the packages, boxes, and bags if it meant they could be spared discord of holidays with family.

Sometimes staying away from family is all that you can do and other times, getting along with even hard-to-like family members is a must. You can survive the holidays with family! Here’s how…

5 Tips on How to Manage Holidays with Family (or any event with someone who really gets under your skin).

Holidays With Family: Be Clear!

Be clear with yourself and your family about how you want to spend time together during the holiday.

It’s important to be prepared for both the logistics and emotional aspects of family holidays. This helps ensure everyone knows what to expect and can make the most of the time you spend together.

If you are visiting, ask about the timing for the important parts of the day – opening of gifts, dinner, etc. Arrive as close to the time of the event you want to be present for and plan to leave immediately following.

If you are hosting, be clear with invited guests about arrival and departure times. People are often afraid to say and keep stop times of parties, but being clear up front and politely wrapping up the event by clearing dishes and stating that the event is ending can have a surprisingly positive effect.

Introduction to Planning

Planning a family holiday is the first step toward creating a truly memorable trip for the whole family. While it might seem overwhelming at first, involving everyone in the planning process can turn it into a fun and exciting adventure. Set aside time to gather as a family and talk about what each person hopes to experience on your next family holiday. Whether your family dreams of exploring new destinations, relaxing on a beautiful beach, or embarking on thrilling adventures, taking everyone’s preferences into account ensures that the holiday will be enjoyable for all ages. By working together to research destinations, activities, and accommodations, you’ll not only make the planning process more enjoyable, but you’ll also set the stage for a vacation filled with laughter, fun, and precious memories. Remember, the best family holidays start with thoughtful planning and a spirit of togetherness.

Provide a family distraction.

Bringing a game or movie is a good idea for keeping everyone engaged during downtime. Being busy with something neutral can provide a safe haven from relatives who might start arguments.

Do not engage with family drama!

If someone says something nasty or tries to start an argument with you, ask yourself if it is really worth it to engage. Typically, the answer is no. Not today.

You can feel angry, hurt, or any number of feelings, but feelings do not need to result in behavior.  Sit this one out.

Leave the chip on your shoulder at home for making memories.

Don’t walk in with an attitude. Don’t start anything and don’t engage if someone baits you. There will be other opportunities to engage when it is not a holiday.

Creating a Family Holiday Bucket List

One of the most exciting ways to kick off planning your next family holiday is by creating a family holiday bucket list. Gather your loved ones and let everyone share their dream destinations and must-do adventures. Maybe your family wants to visit the theme park capital of the world, Orlando, and experience the magic of Walt Disney World Resort or the thrills of Universal Orlando Resort. Or perhaps you’re drawn to exploring the beautiful beaches of Europe, trying out new water sports, or enjoying a city break in a vibrant destination. By listing out all the places you’d love to visit and the activities you want to try, you can start to see what excites your family most. This collaborative approach helps you plan a holiday that’s packed with adventure, relaxation, and unforgettable experiences. Whether you’re dreaming of sandy beaches, world-famous theme parks, or exploring new cultures, a family holiday bucket list is the perfect way to inspire your next vacation and make sure everyone’s wishes are included.

Top Destinations

When it comes to planning your next family holiday, choosing the right destination can make all the difference in creating unforgettable memories. Orlando stands out as the theme park capital of the world, offering endless excitement for the whole family. It is considered one of the best places for a family holiday, with a variety of experiences for all ages. The Walt Disney World Resort is a dream come true for children and adults alike, with magical attractions, festive fun, and opportunities to meet beloved characters. Universal Orlando Resort is another must-visit, especially for Harry Potter fans eager to explore thrilling rides and immersive worlds. Celebrating Christmas and Easter in Orlando brings themed events and activities that make the holiday period extra special.

The Amalfi Coast is the most popular destination and a popular destination for families, renowned for its scenic beauty and vibrant culture. Miami is the perfect spot for family adventures, offering both relaxation and fun activities. New York City, known as the Big Apple, is famous for its festive holiday activities and iconic attractions that delight visitors of all ages.

If your family prefers relaxation and beautiful beaches, consider spending your holiday on the sandy shores of the Caribbean or exploring the stunning coastlines of Europe. Each country offers unique experiences for families, and visiting multiple countries can make for an unforgettable trip. Destinations like Paris and Rome offer a blend of adventure, culture, and relaxation, making them perfect for families who want to combine sightseeing with downtime. The world’s top attractions, such as the Eiffel Tower or the Colosseum, are must-sees for families seeking memorable experiences.

There are exciting adventures available, such as wildlife safaris, cultural tours, and outdoor activities that appeal to thrill-seekers and culture lovers alike. Hiking and hikes are popular family activities, especially in destinations like Patagonia or the North Carolina Mountains, where scenic trails offer opportunities for exploration and bonding. Families are encouraged to discover new cultures and experiences during their travels, broadening horizons and creating lasting memories.

Summer is an ideal time for family holidays, with special activities and fewer crowds making trips even more enjoyable. Planning trips for a week or more, and considering the number of nights spent at a destination, can enhance the overall experience and allow for deeper immersion. The importance of meals, including sampling local cuisine and enjoying family dining experiences, cannot be overstated as they add to the cultural richness of the trip.

Family holidays can be especially meaningful for parents traveling with a daughter, and adult travelers can often benefit from special rates, making group trips more affordable. Choosing activities suitable for children of every age ensures everyone has a great time, and the time spent together on trips becomes cherished memories. Planning different types of trips, from adventure holidays to cultural tours, allows families to tailor their experiences to their interests.

The perfect family holiday balances relaxation and adventure for all ages, creating the ideal environment for bonding and fun. Sometimes, seeing a rare animal on safari or visiting a world-famous landmark is a big deal, making the holiday truly unforgettable.

Family Friendly Accommodations

Choosing the right place to stay is key to a great family holiday. Look for family friendly hotels or resorts that offer amenities designed for both kids and parents, such as kids’ clubs, splash pools, water parks, and spacious family rooms. These features can make a big difference in keeping children entertained and giving adults a chance to relax. Destinations like Orlando are famous for their wide range of family friendly hotels near top theme parks, while Europe offers everything from cozy family-run hotels to luxurious resorts with activities for all ages. Booking your accommodation early is especially important during peak holiday seasons to secure the best options for your family. By selecting the right hotel, you’ll ensure that your family holiday is comfortable, convenient, and filled with opportunities for fun and relaxation for everyone.

Budgeting and Payment Options

A fantastic family holiday doesn’t have to break the bank. Start by setting a realistic budget and exploring ways to make your holiday more affordable. Many families find it helpful to use a savings plan or budgeting app to keep track of expenses and plan ahead. Look for holiday providers and resorts that offer flexible payment plans, allowing you to spread the cost of your trip over several months. Don’t forget to search for special deals, discounts, and family packages on accommodations, flights, and activities—these can add up to significant savings. By being proactive and creative with your planning, you can enjoy a fun-filled family holiday that fits your budget, leaving you free to focus on making memories and enjoying every moment together.

Transportation Options

Getting to your holiday destination should be as stress-free as possible, especially when traveling with children. Consider booking direct flights to minimize travel time and make the journey easier for the whole family. If your chosen destination is closer to home, driving or taking a train can be a flexible and cost-effective option, giving you the freedom to explore at your own pace. Be sure to book your transportation well in advance, particularly during busy holiday periods, to secure the best rates and availability. Factor transportation costs into your overall holiday budget and look for family-friendly options that make the trip comfortable for everyone. With a little planning, you can ensure that your family holiday starts and ends on a high note, making the journey part of the adventure.

Safety and Security

Ensuring the safety and security of your loved ones is a top priority when planning family holidays. Parents want to know that their children can have fun in a safe environment, and many family friendly hotels and resorts are designed with this in mind. From supervised kids’ clubs to secure play areas and child-friendly amenities, these accommodations help create a worry-free atmosphere for the whole family.

Destinations like Orlando and the Walt Disney World Resort are renowned for their commitment to guest safety, with well-trained staff and comprehensive safety measures in place. Before booking your next family holiday, take time to research the safety record of your chosen destination and accommodation. Reading reviews and checking for family friendly certifications can give you extra peace of mind. By prioritizing safety, you can focus on making precious memories, enjoying fantastic adventures, and ensuring that your family trip is both fun and secure. With the right planning, your next family holiday will be a memorable trip filled with laughter, relaxation, and joy for everyone.

Find Festive Fun to Celebrate.

Lower your expectations and find some part of the holiday event (the brilliant corn soufflé, watching Grandma open her new slippers) and just enjoy what you can in a moment by moment way.

We hope this inspires you to create new holiday traditions or meaningful experiences with your loved ones.