I believe the ultimate secret to self-nurture after 50 is to identify more with your inner self because it does not grow older; it becomes exquisitely wiser. As adults, we often overlook self-nurture as we age, focusing on others and neglecting our own needs.

I’m a firm believer that women of every age should nurture themselves without guilt.

I’ve seen the same thing repeatedly throughout each phase of my life: women so busy being caregivers that they forget to take care of themselves.

Darlings, let’s begin with the heart of it all: self-nurture, or self nurturance, is the practice of caring for your own emotional and physical well-being. When you make self-nurture a priority, you create space for growth and joy. Take a moment to realize the importance of prioritizing your own well-being and how it can transform your life.

If you haven’t started treating yourself like the queen you are, then now is the time.

Introduction to Self-Nurture

Darlings, let’s begin with the heart of it all: self-nurture. Self-nurture is the beautiful practice of intentionally taking care of your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. It means tuning in to your own needs and honoring them, just as you would for a dear friend or family member. When you make self-nurture a priority, you’ll notice a gentle shift—your mental health improves, your self esteem blossoms, and your sense of well being deepens.

Self-nurture isn’t selfish; it’s essential. By spending time on self nurturing activities—whether that’s a quiet walk in nature, a few moments of meditation, or simply pausing to breathe—you create space for inner peace and emotional balance. This practice helps manage stress, anxiety, and even depression, allowing you to move through life with more grace and resilience. When you nurture yourself, you’re better equipped to nurture your relationships and find more meaning in your daily life. Remember, darling, your health and happiness matter at every age—so let’s make self-nurture a cherished part of our journey.

Understanding the Importance of Self Care

Let’s talk about self care, darling, because it’s the foundation of self-nurture. Self care means taking deliberate steps to care for your body, mind, and spirit. It’s not about indulgence or luxury—it’s about making your health and well being a top priority. This can be as simple as choosing healthy foods, moving your body in ways that feel good, or making sure you get enough restful sleep.

When you practice self care, you’re sending a powerful message to yourself: “I am worthy of love and attention.” This helps to boost your self esteem, quiet those negative thoughts, and build resilience against life’s stresses and anxieties. Self care also nurtures self compassion, which is so important for overcoming low self esteem and self-doubt. By caring for yourself with kindness and intention, you create a strong foundation for emotional and physical health, allowing you to show up fully for yourself and those you love.

Practicing Self Compassion

One of the most loving gifts you can give yourself is self compassion. This means treating yourself with the same kindness, patience, and understanding that you would offer a good friend. When you practice self compassion, you speak to yourself in a loving way, especially when you feel you’ve fallen short or made a mistake. Instead of harsh criticism, offer yourself gentle words and acceptance.

Self compassion is a powerful tool for managing stress, anxiety, and depression. It helps you build self esteem and fosters a nurturing relationship with your own body and mind. By practicing self compassion, you learn to accept yourself—flaws and all—and to move through life with greater ease and well being. Remember, darling, you are deserving of love and kindness, especially from yourself. Let your inner voice be your greatest support, and watch how your health and happiness flourish.

Find a community and love others!

Over the years, I’ve found satisfying ways to self-nurture after 50 – and one of the best ways has been working to fill others’ cups around me.

Women need women, so reach out to someone in need or join a charity of your choice. These activities are also a wonderful way to make new friends and expand your social circle. If you are an empty nester or retired then you have the time! You are loving yourself when you are able to comfort and engage with women who need you. Once you take the initiative and see the response you will feel very happy and your happiness will radiate out to others. Your glow will spill from your life into others and positively impact our lives. And, trust me, darling, you will feel better than those you are giving to – it is amazing how uplifting giving back can be!

My parents have always encouraged me to give to other women and take notice when others may need me, nurturing values of kindness and generosity. One of my fondest memories of this comes from when I was in grade school, about eight or nine years old. My mother had given me weekly tickets for the lunch room so I could have lunch with my classmates. One day I noticed a girl my age sitting in the corner all alone. After lunch, I walked over to her and asked her why she did not stand in line with the others to pick up her lunch. She told me her name was Marla and she could not afford to buy lunch. I remember feeling sad. I told my mom the story and asked her if our family could buy Marla’s lunch; and from that moment, Marla had lunch every day that year!

Having a giving heart is often the most selfish thing you can do – because it helps to make us feel good as well. That moment allowed me to see the impact that being there for others could truly have and I’ve always strived to give back since.

Forget the past

I see too many women over 50 who live with regret over the past – and it shows up on their faces and in every move they make. Why are we not walking with our heads held high? Why do we not present ourselves in the best light possible? You’ve lived a beautiful life, radiate it! Do not focus on the past, or you’ll never move forward! Holding onto negative emotions and pain can weigh us down, affecting our well-being and making it harder to embrace self-acceptance and growth.

I assume you’re like me and want to live life to the fullest – living in the ‘present’ is a gift. Focus on the present, and begin to self-nurture! If you haven’t yet read Ho’oponopono, I highly recommend it. It is a powerful book that summarizes the Hawaiian ritual of forgiveness- and maybe that’s what we need a great reminder of. I remember feeling sad. In that moment, I felt the weight of my emotions, but also recognized the importance of acknowledging them to move forward. Forgive yourself so you can move forward! Nurture your soul from within and you’ll find you’re more positive to others. Acknowledging your feelings and emotions is a vital part of self-nurture and healing, allowing you to process pain and foster emotional well-being.

Commit to being visible!

Too often, as women, we lose ourselves in the service of others. Our families, friends, careers – they all get a piece of us. After decades of this behavior, it may feel like there is nothing left for you. Let’s reclaim it!

There is no shame in reserving time for you – just you. Setting healthy boundaries is essential for protecting your emotional well-being and ensuring your needs are met. You cannot pour from an empty cup. Women always attempt this and I always find myself asking why? Sometimes, you simply need to take a break from constant giving to recharge and reflect. Is this why we always feel invisible and lonely? Because we let others claim so much of our minds and souls that we constantly feel resentful, agitated, and have a general lackluster attitude towards life? After years of putting others first, it’s no wonder we can feel broken or completely depleted.

It’s time to change that narrative, darling! Let’s self-nurture after 50 and truly take time for ourselves!

Healthy Eating Habits

Nurturing your body with healthy foods is a wonderful act of self love. Choosing nourishing meals filled with fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean proteins can do wonders for your mental health, energy, and overall well being. When you fuel your body with what it truly needs, you feel more vibrant, focused, and alive.

Healthy eating habits are not about restriction—they’re about creating a positive relationship with food and honoring your body’s needs. This can help improve your self esteem and body image, and reduce the risk of chronic health issues. By making mindful choices and savoring each meal, you nurture both your physical health and your sense of self worth. Remember, darling, every bite is an opportunity to care for yourself in a loving, meaningful way.

Taking Care of One’s Body

Taking care of your body is a beautiful expression of self nurture. This means moving your body in ways that feel joyful—whether it’s a gentle walk, a dance class, or stretching in the morning. It also means giving yourself permission to rest, to enjoy a hot bath, or to spend time in nature soaking up the present moment.

Prioritizing sleep, practicing relaxation techniques like deep breathing or meditation, and engaging in creative activities all contribute to your physical and mental well being. These self care practices help reduce stress, boost your energy, and support a positive self image. By taking care of your body, you honor the life you’ve lived and the many roles you play. Remember, darling, your body is your lifelong companion—nurture it with love, and it will support you in living a healthy, joyful, and fulfilling life.

Treat yourself!

Find what speaks to your soul and make regular appointments to treat yourself to it.

Do you love to travel? Book a trip (even a weekend one) alone so you can truly embrace the town and culture. While you’re exploring, remember to have fun and let your creativity shine—try new activities, take photos, or journal your experiences to make your journey even more memorable. If you’re an adventurous soul: wander the streets, and ask the locals about the go-to spots. If you’re a more organized sally, plan the perfect stress-free venture with your favorite travel agent (the kind that’s been to the places, not just seen them on a computer!). Read my recent blog post on the importance of traveling (and my top tips!) right here.

Perhaps you love to shop! Head to the shopping district, visit a store you’ve never been to, try things on and learn to love that beautiful body again – no matter its size! Touch the fabric, get properly measured, and sip the most delicious coffee on your excursion. Express yourself through art and fashion, making each choice a reflection of your unique identity. Shop for the staple pieces you’ve always needed in your wardrobe (a great trench coat, perhaps?!), or buy the beautiful items you can’t live without – then come home and organize your closet. I promise it will bring peace to your mind.

Plan a spay day! A massage, facial, manicure, and pedicure can do wonders for your soul. Step away and enjoy the tranquil sounds in a robe! These self-nurturing activities help you feel calm, benefit you physically, and can even help lower blood pressure. There isn’t a duty that can’t wait until you’ve been refreshed mind, body, and soul!

And don’t forget to treat yourself to healthy food—nourishing your body with delicious, wholesome meals is an essential part of self-nurture.

Let’s practice self care and self-nurture after 50!

I hope you take the time this week to put yourself first and to fill your own cup. When we are the best version of ourselves, we can better serve those around us. What is your favorite way to fill your own cup through self-care? Share in the comments below!

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