Darlings, since it’s the month of May, blooming is what we are all about here on Honey Good. As I’m sure you know, after 50 it can be hard to feel like blooming… especially with everything going on in the world right now. However, it is not impossible. We can bloom where we are planted… all we need is a bloomer’s attitude!
What does it mean to achieve and maintain a bloomer’s attitude?
The answer is simple: continue to know, grow, meet, serve, and learn.
A bloomer’s desire is to live her life outside the box. She is a gutsy woman; fiercely acknowledging she controls her destiny while keeping ‘her reality’ in check. If she fumbles, she picks herself up and does whatever is necessary to make herself feel exceptional.
The key: she is all about optimism.
What can you do in this passage of life when you don’t feel like a bloomer but a gloomer?
Remember, you have all the tools you need to pull yourself out of your funk because you have control to break that funk, so brighten up emotionally, girl, and figure out your way to get that wind back in your sail.
How to Have a Bloomer’s Attitude When You Are Feeling Gloomy
My wind has always been my optimism. My sail is the woman I have become over the years. I am fortunate to see the brightness in the face of most gloom. I am grateful that I am an optimistic woman and feel bad that many women over the age of 50 have more melancholy days than happy days.
For some women, pessimism has become their lifestyle. They are feeling powerless.
Symptoms of a Gloomer
You want to be cheerful, confident, hopeful, and positive. You want to have a bloomer attitude; Instead, you are experiencing a period of listlessness, downheartedness, and stagnation. You feel blah, having hit a rut in life. Maybe you are feeling powerless; you are no longer living an inspired lifestyle. You are feeling like a gloomer instead of a bloomer.
You Have Two Choices: Give Up or Pick Up
Here are a few of my tips to pull you out of your doldrums:
- Your problems aren’t bigger than you. A problem can be a blessing in disguise. A problem can teach you a valuable lesson. So, push back against adversity.
- Replace negative garbage that has polluted your thoughts with positive resources. Read books or listen to audiobooks, listen to podcasts, read blogs. There is so much information to be had, just Google it, Darlings.
- Embrace positive habits: Exercise, walk and enjoy the sunshine. When you look better, you feel better. Make the shift from living inside the box to living outside the box by visualizing your needs. Eating healthily is always a great pick me up.
- Change your routine.
- Surround yourself with inspiring people. If you do not know anyone, join a new group (like GRANDwomen with Moxie) or go back to college online. Spending time with sterile and complacent women will not pick you up. You will eventually give up.
- Do what makes you happy. Stop doing what you dislike.
The key is to hold yourself accountable. This should become a daily discipline. It is a big life-changer. It is not easy, but the pain is worth the gain. When you accomplish this, you will return to your bloomer attitude.
Every day cannot be a bloomer day. But I promise if you live an inspired lifestyle, your doldrums will fade. You are armed with so many positive tools of thought.
Think about your accomplishments and better yet, your opportunities. Then visualize how you want to spend your life taking in the bigger picture; your family and friends, your job, your social activities and feel gratitude for all the good in your life.
Then you will feel the attitude of a bloomer.
What are your thoughts? I want so much to hear your opinions and feelings. I also want you to speak up so that women our age remain visible. We have a responsibility to share our wisdom, wouldn’t you say? Share yours either in the comments below or on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.